• Confidence and Identity,  Fear Insecurity Shame,  Sexual Revolution,  Women's Sexuality

    Her Royal Hotness

    ⚠️ Someone recently told me that we as women should focus on gaining respect from others through our intelligence and our contribution rather than on being attractive. ⚠️ I couldn’t disagree more. Our focus shouldn’t be on gaining anything from others…and you can’t gain what you don’t already have. So if you need others to respect you…. But I also disagree with the idea that women don’t care about being attractive. It’s BS. It’s a rather peculiar concept…that a women would sever her sexuality in order to be accepted for something more important, meaningful or valuable… Listen ladies: You are valuable. Period. So we can set that one aside (you…

  • Men's Sexuality,  Sexual Revolution,  Women's Sexuality

    A Smoking Gun

    The age of women looking at men to validate them is over. It’s mother f*cking over. And what’s more? The age of woman playing the whore is no more. Keep reading to see what’s in store.  👇👇👇👇 When women finally see that they have always been free – everything will change. When women rise up knowing who the fuck they are – everything will change. When women stop depending on men to give them a sense of value and worth and then punishing the men when they don’t or when they hurt – everything will change. When women stop giving themselves away for security and provision – everything will change. When women start…

  • Men's Sexuality,  Sexual Revolution,  Women's Sexuality

    ⚠️WARNING: Gold-Digger Trigger ⚠️

    This is some good shit! And it’s long AF. Hey – we don’t complain about you being too long/too much all at once, do we? I didn’t think so. You can take it. 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 This gets me real feisty and fiery and a lot of other things that I probably shouldn’t mention, but they will probably happen to you, too. So it will be our little secret.🔥 I want to talk about men who treat sex the same way they treat their finances. Tight fisted as fuck. I can hear the disgruntled ones mumbling something about women always wanting money. It’s not about the goddamn money! (There ARE women out…

  • Men's Sexuality,  Sexual Revolution,  Women's Sexuality

    BS Sex Story: Frequent sex is the sign of a healthy relationship.

    A lot of relationship teachers (coaches, counselors, therapists) teach that your sex life is the litmus test for the health and viability of your relationship.   This message has been thrust at men and women for quite some time. It sounds really good….Good sex means the relationship is also good… But it’s not at all that simple. Frequent sex can be a barometer of intimacy, but it can also be straight bullsh*t. When relationships are suffering, dull, or distant, men and women are often counseled to “spice up their sex life,” “have sex more frequently,” “try something new,” “explore each other.” And so many other well meaning suggestions aimed at alleviating…

  • Confidence and Identity,  Fear Insecurity Shame,  Women's Sexuality

    Confronting Accusations

    A woman recently accused me of being the reason broken women were still in the throes of sexual bondage and insecurity over their appearance. “…ur keeping women im the whole instagram bullshit problem…” She made the point that real “hot momma/vavoomness” comes from a woman who doesn’t need to use tactics to get what she wants, but that she is creating change through inspiration and not giving a damn about what society expects. (You can read her viewpoint in the comments here.) With her full statements, she implies that if I (and other women) were not “leading” with sexuality that Instagram and FB would be full of images of intelligent, powerful…